“A friend introduced me to her spiritual director when I moved to Cleveland for a job. I was feeling lost. My director helped me to reset my own compass.” - Isaiah, 23, Logistics Specialist
“I found my spiritual director on a college retreat. She helped me appreciate my quirkiness and to see that God likes it too.” - Meghan, 27, Artist, Freethinker
“I was a single mom, working full time and going to nursing school, when my pastor gave me the name of a spiritual director. I was afraid to call, but looking back it was just what I needed. It helped me quiet myself and find balance.” - Taylor, 24, WonderWoman
What is it?
Spiritual Direction is help given by one Christian to another through confidential, ongoing conversation. You can meet once a week, once a month, once a quarter, or whatever works for you and your director. Typically, you will meet for a half hour or hour at a mutually convenient spot (office, church, coffeeshop, etc). It is customary to offer a small stipend or donation for each meeting in appreciation for your companion's time.
What does a spiritual director or spiritual companion do?
Spiritual directors are trained to accompany you one-on-one towards a deeper understanding of and relationship with God. The spiritual director does not “direct” in the sense of giving advice and solving problems. Rather, they ask thoughtful questions to help you uncover how the Holy Spirit is guiding you in life, work, and relationships.
Click the button above for a list of spiritual directors who have experience guiding young adults and come highly recommended. Taking time to find the right fit is important. You may also know a religious sister, brother, or priest who offers spiritual direction. Also, if you have any friends who have a spiritual director, ask them about their experience.
To get started, identify 2-3 spiritual directors who you may like. Conduct inquiry phone calls. Spiritual directors understand the importance of right fit. When you call a spiritual director for the first time, they will chat with you and ask questions to help discern whether this is a right match. Again, spiritual directors are trained to help you get the most from the experience. Your first meeting will likely include an orientation to the practice of spiritual direction.
What if there isn't a good fit with a spiritual director?
You are free to end your relationship and select a new spiritual director at any time. This is common, especially when first finding a spiritual director. Sometimes, directors themselves will suggest that you may find a better fit with someone else. It is courteous to inform your Spiritual Director that you will not be utilizing their services, especially if you have future appointments scheduled, but you do not need to give a reason.